Our schedule is set up similar to yours. We each get a week of vacation, to use at our discretion. We also need to give adequate notice. However, We didn't set any strict structure into the "okaying" of it. Our plan was to ask for the time, and if it works, great. That is how wife treated her vacation this summer. She asked. My reply was "sure, enjoy your trip". They went to a family reunion.
I am not asking for Holiday time. Daughter will still spend Christmas eve with me, and Christmas day with W. However, wife views the entire 2 weeks off from school as, "the holidays". That is where we ran into the first obstacle. Wife also says, "you will be taking her away from me for 3 whole weeks" There are two problems with this. First, I won't be taking her away. She will still see daughter on Christmas. She will also see daughter on her normal visitation days, which are every Thursday during my weeks. The biggest thing she disregards is, I went for the same amount of time, without seeing daughter, during her vacation. Actually, I saw her even less, because there was no Holiday in the middle that vacation.
Her unreasonable approach of replying, was to dismiss my request all together, and make ANOTHER request of her own. She wants me to put my vacation time on hold, for another time that better suits her. On top of that, she has asked me to switch our normal parenting weeks with each other, so that she can take daughter on a vacation of her own. Her perspective of what is fair, absolutely baffles me. I don't get it
