Ok, Rj2, you need to slooooooow down! It's good that you are thinking these issues through and you have some good insights here, but you are getting way ahead of yourself.
First things first. You are going to move back in w/H...YEAH!!! This will give you so much opportunity to Db your butt off (i.e. wearing thong around the house). I would concentrate on this first and foremost. My advice here is to not make a big deal of it in front of H. Just have an "as if" attitude...be happy and fun.
Once you get moved back in, you can adjust to the dynamics that are happening. You can slowly start to work out these issues together. Don't go borrowing trouble right now. He hasn't done anything yet...it's all just talk. Don't squander today by worrying about tomorrow. Just get yourself moved and let's see what happens.
I bought the CD series "Light His Fire" by Ellen Kriedman (they have a website) and it has some really good ideas about affair-proofing your M and being your H's lover again. Also, sometimes these sexual ideas are fantasies and they never happen in reality. My H has often talked about bringing in another woman for some fun (I think it is every man's fantasy) and I play along with it. I think it really turns him on when I tell him what I would do with her and some of the scenarios that I'd like to play out. If you met me, you would think that I'm the last person that would talk about a threesome and wear a thong around the house. I wear business suits during the day and my attire and demeanor are very conservative. I would absolutely die if my H really brought someone home, but I play along anyway and it excites him. So maybe the fantasy sets them free so that they don't have to act it out in reality.
Christine
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