Mozza (2)

[Mozza]

Thanks a lot sandi2 and Maybell. I appreciate your help.

I should clarify that we never had extensive "arrangement" talks with my W, other than the 50-50. It was "I'm moving out. Guess I'll pick up my stuff and we'll share the kids 50-50." Then she was out. No parent has "primary custody" (unless it happens by default in the law and I'm not aware of it). There are no papers, no talks of divorce. Just two parents living separately and cordially agreeing. So she's not doing anything against an arrangement, she's just making unilateral decisions when we don't have an agreement. I'm asking if I'm supposed to let it all slip or ask her to discuss when we disagree about the kids. It seems only logical to me that we discuss, but I understand that it's considered as unwarranted "control of her" around here. Since the DB method is often counter-intuitive, I'm think I might not understand something or perhaps losing sight of my goal.