You are right about her leaving town is now her prerogative. I have no say in that or input. I think there is an issue however when I bring kids back and she's already gone without telling me or some of the kids. I would not do that to her, and I'd appreciate her not doing that to me.

Your advice about not being judgemental at all about has opened up a window that has allowed me to perform some acts of service for her. She let me come in to her room today and check the foot that she injured on her trip. (Thanks)

Here is our latest text exchange:
m:Do you need help getting to urgent care today?
W:Hmmm maybe.
W:We have no food here and I can't LEAVE TO GO GET ANY...
M:I have another lasagna I can bring after church. Y'all need breakfast stuff too?
Yes. Apparently. Urgent care doesn't open til 1.
I can't put as much weight on it today as yesterday
M:I'll see if I can drop by real quick before we go to church.
W:So maneuvering through the kitchen is something I haven't done yet
M:Dang. Need a wheel chair?
Thanks
No
m:I know where one is.
W:I need food. And I need to go hunt down meds.
You gonna bring food or not?
M:Yes
W:Thank you.
M:You are welcome.
W:Is today your day to visit with kids?

Me:40
W:39
M:Dec 95
Split: Jul 14
W Filed: 9/16/14
Several Children
(including adopted)