Posted to your old thread. Feeling very happy for you. He may really want to explore an open marriage type thing...but I don't think you need to spend time worrying about that too much. Remember, he THINKS he is giving up his freedom. But you know...and we know...that his freedom has not been all that much fun!
I don't want to minimize your concerns. But nobody, not even your h, knows for sure what the future holds. Do you want to miss this opportunity to TRY to make your M work? Because that is the only guarantee that you have that you won't get into that situation with your h.
Take it slow. He certainly isn't going to run out as soon as you return. If he does, he will really, IMO, just be acting out. You have come too far to start freaking now.
You can set the tone of this new relationship. Keep him guessing and far too busy thinking about you. Yes the thong. I really think you can take this slowly. You have become very good at reading him. Stay busy. Don't go to all his gigs. And when it seems to be getting stale shake him up every now and then.
He wants a one nighter? Try different ways to become his one night stand. Call him up and tell him you will be at such and such bar and that he better get there if he wants to make sure you go home with him...then be there talking to guys and let him pick you up!!! Maybe even do this on a night that one of your gf's is out of town...ask her if you can use her place for a quickie with your h...then take him back there!
You are inventive. You will come up with ways to tease him and keep him interested. Let him chase. I know how scary this must be for you. But you got the stuff gal!
Just make sure that your settling in together doesn't feel too much like the same old thing. You worked so hard on changing yourself. Keep a hold on that and get to know your INDEPENDENT self even better.
You KNOW we are all in your corner. Lots of love and lots of opinions! We will follow your progress and learn from all that you care to share with us.
