moving with confidence to success!

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LADIES- THE THONG HAS CREATED THE BEGINNING OF THE MIRACLE FOR ME!!! Wow, we've created our own version of DB I think!

Ok- I have had a major turn in my sitch...

H invited me to come back home tonight!!!...since my lease is ending- as a "roommate" for now, but also as a trial period to see if things could work out for us... This is HUGE

I move back in April 1. There was still alien junk talk but also a bunch of other good signs. I go over to H's tonight for our "chat/dinner" thing and H initiates huge R talk basically. Is babbling brook about tons of his issues with M.. I validated amazingly. I made him feel understood and accepted and I really think he started to believe the "new me" who has changed her ways to give him tons of space and allowing him to be free and not have to worry about making me mad,etc... Then we ML for good long time and hey Christine!, the thong and brush are making the breakthrough for me too!!! HAHAHA!!!!!

Here are more good signs from the convo
-H loves me
-H is "not sure" and this is a trial period (majorly coming around, right- allowing a trial period)
-H misses my hugs and cuddles, no one else can give him that the way I do- I'm special
-H was worried to death about me on Sunday when I had my run in with health/alcohol- this was a turning point in his mind apparently realizing how much he cared about me
-So far in this S, H has been able to work through a lot of his own junk and depression and feels better as a person now.
-H feels excited seeing me in new way, like not as a "wife" but as cool, fun chic - I told him to throw the "wife" preconceptions out the window

Alien junk - maybe time and more DB will help this...
- H has thought of us sleeping with other people during this "trial period" He thinks we shouldn't be in each other's faces about it, but would see it as something he thinks may be important to try(Maybe if me and him have sex enough this won't happen, maybe he won't get around to it, haha)

-H isn't sure he would want 100% manogomy - that is one of his probs with M.... mentions that he would like to be able to have one-night stands if he's away on tour and I should be able to have one-night stands then too. LOL. I managed to validate- said I was confused and not sure if I would prefer that, though. This could be alien,, not sure- H has come up with this one only in the last week or so. Then H said that this issue is only 10% of the problem he has with M-and acted like maybe he didn't need extra sex that much- he's not sex monger.
The anti-M was more about feeling like I would be mad and have tons or rules for him to be obligated to- which I validated and took blame for that in past I didn't realize - never meant to make him feel like that and now that's why I respect his space,etc!

-H said that just b/c we are having sex this does not mean we are back together and I should know that is the status, if we continue to have sex for now. He doesn't want to be f-friends, but if I understand this, he's having fun and it's ok we keep it up.

H admitted he's thinking about sex alot since he has been alone and until recently, he hasn't had sex since Jan(with me) Maybe I just need to keep up our excitement in the bedroom dept and this will heal a lot.

So- I am still in shock and realize this is pretty major chance for the M... moving back to my and H's old apartment and all. I am bringing a king sized bed with me! Right now H has a single bunk bed in his studio- hmm what's more appealing, sleeping and cuddling(like he likes) a woman and the cats in a big bed or that silly college dorm top bunk. Won't be long before he's sleeping in bed with me, for sure..... H admitted he missed my cuddles and the cats cuddles and wants them. Alien is transforming- I believe in MIRACLES! Thong miracles, that is!!!!

I must admit, though I am worried about this threat of OW interest and anti-manogomy.. Anyone have advice for me on this? Is it likely alien since it just came up like a week ago??? help.