Quote: Since Sunday, I got the ILYNILY bomb I got the lets see other people bomb, I'm bored with manogomy
The thing that comes to mind here is to remember not to listen to what H says. It sounds to me as if he is REALLY confused, but the ML is a very good sign. I've been reading that men express love through sex. They feel close and connected.
My H showed me very confusing signs right before the "miracle". He was moving closer but telling me that he was leaving all at the same time. About 30 mins after the first post-bomb ML he said that he was still planning on moving. I believe that there is a transition period where they are moving back towards us but they still have to cling to their D ideas until they finally give in.
As for the thong, a male friend of mine said that he believes that the single-most effective thing that I did was to wear a thong around the house. My H never mentioned it or even seemed to give me a second glance, but in retrospect, I think it did have an impact on him. As for the brush, I think that it is important to have fun with H. Isn't that what an A is all about? I have decided that I will be H's lover and act as if I am the OW. If your H is bored with monogamy, then you need to spice things up and be the OW. My suggestion is to act as if you two are having a secret romance. Bottom line, whether you wear a thong or use the back of a hairbrush, you have to do things that are different, exciting and fun.
Let us know how things are progressing.
Christine
I am the master of creating positive energy and love in my own environment. I am the source of love in my life. It starts with me! This energy radiates from me! It gives me strength, courage, wisdom and grace!
