Ganb8te 2 - WAH - lost in translation

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I've been waiting for the other shoe to drop and sure enough…the PMA I've maintained the last few weeks came crashing down this weekend. I miss my H. It's 5 months to the day since he moved out. We've not exchanged any angry words in that time, but no loving ones either. It feels like he's not moving away from me quite so quickly as in the beginning, but there doesn't seem to be any movement toward me either. For example, the rental bond money that was deposited into our joint account when I moved out of our old place is still in the joint account 2 weeks later (before he was eager to take his half out). Then again, that could all just be my imagination.

I've mostly been doing LRT til now and letting him initiate contact. Last weekend I initiated contact and he agreed to meet up. Talk is really strained when we do meet up (he says he hasn't got much to say) and I'm not sure if/how I can help steer that in a more positive direction. Any thoughts there? A guys perspective would be really appreciated. I know the need to talk is different for men and women and so I wonder if I am aiming for the wrong target...

I keep going back and re-reading DR for ideas on what to do. I confess I have found it difficult to set goals. Sure I can set some related to GAL etc…but I struggle to think of things that might help me figure out if the R is moving forward given that we are separated. The obvious one would be that H initiates contact more frequently but that is not achievable in a couple of weeks! Has anyone here had success with writing solution-oriented goals in this situation? Care to share?