I just checked in, I don't come to this site much anymore. You ask valid questions, but you may never get answers from your H. Did you read Sandi's 37 Rules? Print them out and follow them. Even though the D is grinding on.

The most important thing to do is GAL (Get A Life)! Your life revolves around your son it seems. Make some time for you. Join a club, take a class, do something you have always wanted to. Or maybe something you aren't sure about, but someone else suggests.

I learned to meditate. I took yoga classes and they do a little meditation at the end. Very powerful for getting that anxiety in check. Read as many of other peoples threads as you can. Go back and read some from the beginning. All the answers are there.

Make sure you are getting enough sleep, and eating right. Take care.

Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32
D final 9/12
Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!