1. As I've said before, maybe even to you, my parents recovered from a PA. They separated after my mother confessed, for about 6 months, and she continued the PA during this time. Eventually, they reconciled and I can say with 100% certainty that neither has ventured outside the marriage since, and they are very happy together, and I can't see this changing. This was at least 25 years ago, by the way.
2. You could always make it seem like you are dating, without actually dating, if that would get your H's attention. Or you could even agree to a group date but be clear with everyone involved that you're not ready for a real date.
