Wife in denied but ongoing affair, what to do???

[blndsid]

Ok, so a few things have changed since my last post.

I'll reply to MrBond first. I appreciate any and all comments, and it helps me take a step back and look at myself. Thanks.

I don't doubt while I wrote my shortcomings I was in a snarky state of mind as I felt many of her complains were "script" and the same as so many told to other LBS on the board. I have been truly trying to change me and focus on my boys, it's just I haven't seen any effort from her to change the way she's acting towards our M. Except that I believe there is an OM2 and OM3 now. I also think the perception of me "quitting" my job was the primary trigger for her "he doesn't do anything right" attitude towards me. In a drunken rage this week she did mention that "all of a sudden you've become superdad for the last 6 weeks." So she has noticed some things.

I turned down a GM position because I acknowledged it was keeping me away from my family. She was involved in the decision, and specifically told it could mean loosing my job all together. Ironically, had he fired me that day instead of letting me work several more months, he would have been the bad guy. As it was, I got that label. That's the past, learn and keep chugging along. I feel that I have to bail on my consulting business and find an 8-5 job that she may see as "real". If nothing else, I'd better get serious so I have benefits again. Something I took for granted having a wife to lean on. Misjudged that one, for sure.