Thank you Toots. I do need to be mindful of the mental state. I have never let my anger get away from me but can get clouded when angry and say the wrong thing. Not hurtful, just stupid things. I've actually done the scream in the car thing when nobody else is around...usually the highway, while moving fast.

I can't really say who will recover faster. Seems my WAW recovered pretty quick to have had some many PA's at this point and still be dating. But that's really of little consequence now. I need to set some new boundaries for now.

Until she values me enough to try to start talking truth and earning some trust, I don't see any reason we should see each other outside of pickups of my S. I also am done with these nightly calls at this point. Its just her getting the chance to feel better like she still has a family at home that loves her. I can't bare that burden for her anymore. I know they say its okay to let WAW come by and see our changes but I can't be around her like this, while she continues to lie about the affairs and act like nothing is going on. I won't take it lying down.

Thanks for commenting guys! Its nice to hear from others.


M: 43 W: 43
Married 6 yrs.
T: 7 yrs.
Son 20, 18, 17, 15 yrs. (w/ Autism), 12, 10