I would also like to give you insight into your wife because I don’t want you to be sucker punched.
It sounds as if you are married to a very "strong" woman. By your own admission you are not a “take-charge” kind of man.
I know a popular theme on this web site is divorced people remarry. But I want to give you insight into something I have never seen in my 20 years of practice:
I have never seen a “strong woman” remarry a man she perceived as “weak.”
By the time it gets to divorce a “strong woman” is completely overwhelmed by the perceived “weakness” of her spouse. And the “weakness” is a barrier which can never be overcome…even if the man “grows strong.” She will argue if he would have become stronger earlier he could have saved the marriage it is “too little—too late.”
Therefore, if you believe you and your wife might reconcile if you divorce I strongly beseech you to reconsider your strategy. Statistics are not in your favor. If your wife is a “strong” woman and she perceives you as someone who does not “take charge” if you divorce, I can almost give you a 100% guarantee she will never remarry you.
I know this is harsh but you are fighting a time clock.
