I emailed H that he is welcome to come by any time this weekend and also for the spaghetti dinner (family tradition) on Monday for D17's bday. He replied that he wants to come over tomorrow and also Monday for spaghetti. I'm torn between staying so that I can see him and not being there so that he doesn't get to "cake eat". Of course I will stay around for D17's birthday dinner on Monday night but am wondering what to do about tomorrow. He will probably come around 1 and stay until 9. Maybe I should go to a movie or something for part of the time he's here. He doesn't need to know where I'm going. I think if he gets to see his family once per week, his emotional needs will be met. Personally, I would need/want to spend as much time with my children as I could but then again, I'm not a WAS. I wonder if it would even matter to him if I weren't there. Maybe all he needs is time with D's and this would be enough to meet his emotional needs. Any advice?
Me: 54 H: 58 Married: 29 years Together 33 years H admitted to A: 5/29/14 H moved out :6/15/14 OW lives 4 hours away and "occasionally" stays weekends with H D23 D18
