Wow, Hope, that is very direct. Thank you for putting me on the spot.

Yes, I do want to stay married.

What we had before is dead however. I know what my primary failure was: Not being the leader our home needed, and letting her overwhelm herself. Once she started making decisions for the family, I gave up my role and became just a big child in her eyes to manage. Totally unsexy and just a distraction for her. If men don't perform our role, we force our wives to, and then eventually the leave because they don't need us.

If I could make changes on my part and reset the clock back a year, our situation would be salvageable with no changes required from her, other than getting accustomed to me leading more.

FD

Me:40
W:39
M:Dec 95
Split: Jul 14
W Filed: 9/16/14
Several Children
(including adopted)