This never occurred to me. Thank you so much for that perspective. Seriously, that's...wow. I feel silly.
Who knows, in the end, but you're right. Grain of salt.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies