Hey 25years, since you quoted me a page back I will hop in and say I appreciated your take on that and your advice to Little. Indeed we need to take a hard look at our role in things and change behaviors that didn't work or are not working.
By saying Little should take the texting as a baby step but ignore him, I meant to see it as a positive but not to take it as "oh yay he wants to get back together now!" and start pursuing. Well, at least in my situation that was not the right move I don't think. My H texts me all the time which is a baby step or a positive but it's not like he is coming home. He texts me about his dates forcryingoutloud.
I'm really glad you are chiming in here as those of us in similar situations can all really use your wisdom. And yes, I have read the books...many times. And glean more wisdom each time.
Little, your cocktail evening sounds great! And I agree with what Maybell said about relationships and positive stories. I saw your story about the lady in the shop as a sad story for her but a happy story for the ex! Maybe she was the fiancee stealing OW...hmmm....
Have a great day everyone! Hope your weekends are going well. Hugs, Lisa
Me: 34 H: 30 M: 4 years BD: 6/15/14 He moved out 6/30/14 OW1: EA then PA after BD Now he's dating multiple OWs I'm over it and moving on.
