How did your H respond after you only validated with short answers? How was his manurisms and how was he toward you the next several days? Also, how was he several days after you worked to draw him out a bit which ended up ML?
We can only go by what you type here, but you will have to look at the big picture to see which worked and which didn't. I think you drawing him out some worked well as it turned into ML, which can be every emotional. If her were really upset by you talking more indepth I don't think it would have happened both times.
You may also want to think how you were in the R before the bomb, and see if it at all corrolates to you talking more indepth with him. I know in my case, I was somewhat guarded in my emotions with my W ans somewhat withdrawn. I needed to break that after the bomb, and talking more with her and explaining more of my emotions help draw her closer to me, as she was looking for that in our previous R.
Only you will know. Just remember to montior things for a while after a consistant DB technique (unless met with immediate anger or negative reaction). I think flip floping a lot would drive people away. Just my opinion, but what do I know.
God Bless You,
Reuben
Cautiously hopeful and keeping the Momentum
