Every expert I have talked to says that I shouldn't pursue, but I just can't understand how that can possibly work
B/c it is the nature of most LBH'S to pursue a W who has made it plain she no longer wants him! Now tell me why you want to chase after someone who treats you that way? Would you try to convince her you can work it out? Would you apply emotional pressure, guilt, or shame? Would you make promises, bargin, plead, etc.?
None of that works on a wayward W. You cannot talk her out of this. Talk does not work during this time of the stitch.
Has her AP joined her in their new life together? There are people who have A's that actually get M. Not many last, but they try it anyway.
If she were to come back, wouldn't you want it to be without any pressure? Wouldn't you want it for no other reason except that she loves you?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
