BD and 6 months later PA confirmed (2)

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Hi Bunches, I was so sorry to read of where you are, and how things have been. I can understand why you are so angry. That must be so hard to learn what you have learned, given how hard you have tried.

Remember to find ways to let the anger out. I have taken to bashing pillows on the bed with a rolled up newspaper, whilst ranting and raving. Sometimes I do a primal scream in the car. You just have to find a way to release the anger...

I read recently that LBS tend to recover more quickly from situations like this. Normally they are the ones who have been so hurt and desperate, and have put in so much effort. They know that they hung on as long as they possibly could, and did all that they were humanly able to try and save the marriage. This means that they can actually move on more readily than WS, who have to deal with the fact that they have been unfaithful, dishonest and walked away from their marriage.

Good luck to you :-)