still holding on - 4

[u-turn]

when she's telling you about her day what are you doing? Are you looking her in the eyes and listening to her intently, with the appropriate nodding and uh-huhs?

Knowing that this is important and focusing on my 180s, I know to pay close attention when she is talking. So I am doing that and showing interest in what she's talking about. I ask questions about her stories so she can expand on things that she likes to talk about.

She says I am just patronizing her. She's like a mind reading ninja sometimes (something that I've always loved about her) - but she sees right through this validation.

She will only talk to me about work, and a little about the kids. I try not to push conversations into other areas, but sometimes I feel like she wants me to.

Yesterday she had to fire someone - and she hated doing it. I told her that I knew that was a hard thing to do - I think she liked this from me.