Being dim with him has helped keep me on an even keel. And the message lately seems to be that DBing is to backburner the WAS and go about your life, which works quite well for preventing meltdowns. So I'm not creating more negative interactions.
My kids are young and there are three of them so between all their various needs, I communicate with him at least by email/text almost every day.
Those interactions have gotten quite terse on my end in the last few days. I told him in May that I would not be "friends" with him while he was in contact with OW. He told me in July that they were through, but now that I saw her on his FB page, I've drawn way, way back and he seems to have noticed. What it matters to him I couldn't say, but I'm done messing around. I was patient. I've seen how well I can cope without him. If we divorce I'll be fine. I'd rather we didn't, but I'll rebound if that's my path. That time of taking my space has been very healing.
Think happy thoughts on the job front for me. It's a GREAT fit with a great future and I really hope it works out.
Thinking of you, Ahoy, and I'm glad you're centered again... Even though centered is currently a bummer of a place to be. You'll be better for it in the long run.
I love you, man!!
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
