Sandi, I think I see your answer in another thread, but what does stepping back look like?
Currently I initiate contact only when necessary (usually kid related) and I do it by text/email. I don't extend any invitations to get togethers- she asked about being invited and I made my best effort of sounding like it didn't matter if she showed or not. I plan on initiating no R or D talk. If she wants to push towards D, I'll go along with, being agreeable as I can while standing up for what I want. When I'm around her, I try to be friendly but not overly.
I guess my thought is if she's having any second thoughts, why should I push the envelope? I'm trying to act like I'm ok with D without pushing it.
