I just wanted to repeat some earlier advice on GAL
Originally Posted By: Young at Heart
Dear Seattle;
You are getting lots of great advice. Why don't you do something really drop dead interesting as a way of declaring and defining the new you?
May I suggest you enroll in something way out of the ordinary as say the UW experimental college if you really are in or near Seattle. https://depts.washington.edu/asuwxpcl/
How about signing up for the couples massage class (they will set you up with someone), the inexpensive global volunteering travel class, Flirting 101, Salsa dancing, Tango dancing, or Figure drawing. Any of those things would make you a much more interesting person and someone who is not the same old you. Your job is to GET A LIFE by building a new set of skills and experiences. You need to focus on you (and your development); not on what you might be loosing if she chooses to leave you.
One of the hardest lessons I had to learn in DB was that only I can take responsibility for my happiness. Let me say that differently, I can't look to my W for my happiness, I must do things in my life to provide me with the minimum (or more) happiness I require. If my wife does things to make me happy that is just gravy and wonderful! If I depend on her to be happy I am in a sick co-dependent relationship. Choosing a GAL hobby that give me pleasure, builds my confidence, makes me seem like a much more manly man or interesting man for my woman to be with just makes things so much better.
Challenge yourself to really do something out of your comfort zone that will change the way your W looks at you.
