Wait a minute. Weren't you having something at your house for the kids...and she asked if she was invited? Now she has taken it upon herself to invite another couple and act like the Mrs. of the house?
Maybe I have you confused with someone else's plans. But still, that seems very presumptuous of a woman who doesn't want to stay in the M.
The kids party she asked about being invited to is tomorrow night. I mentioned the other day that she was more than welcome to stop by. She has a bday dinner, so said she would probably stop by for a few hrs.
Trick or treat last night- I hadn't heard anything from W on her plans and because I knew she was taking S15 over to her friend's house to play a part in their haunted house, so I assumed she was staying over there. At some point this past week she told me she would stop by to help the kids get ready. She ended up staying most of the night.
But you're correct in that her actions don't align with a woman who doesn't want to stay M. I'm done trying to read into things and figure her out, but she hasn't mentioned our S, the kids schedule, her budget or anything else since we met a few weeks ago. Her van isn't for sale (as far as I know). And that personal checking account she set up a few weeks ago- she got paid today and only $100 went to her personal account, the rest into our joint account. I fully expected the exact opposite.
At this point, I'm not sure how I should be handling things. Should I ask her when she plans on taking the rest of her things from the house? Should I be the one to start treating us like we're D- separate holidays, coming up with a budget/kids schedule, close the joint account, etc?
Or will those things only push her towards D and because she hasn't taken any further steps towards D, do I just maintain status quo and let her be the one to drive us towards D/bring up those talking points?
Right or wrong, I've decided for the next few weeks to let her be the one to drive. If she wants D, she can prompt the talk. In my email the morning after our 'testy' exchange regarding kids/budget/spousal support, I told her I was willing to work with her and she could let me know when she was ready to revisit. We've spoken several times since then and she's made no mention of restarting that conversation. If 2- 3 weeks go by and W still hasn't mentioned anything, maybe I re-evaluate. Thoughts??
