So I'm a little confused by your comments before and now. Can you see why?
Yes, I see why.
As far as my "action plan", it's going semi-dark. I don't contact him unless he contacts me first to talk about logistics with separating our things, which at this point is almost completely finished. I can't imagine I'd have too much left at the old house after this box he's made is dealt with. After that, there's literally nothing to talk about. We don't have kids. Unless he chooses to talk to me first, we have no reason to talk. We don't live in the same town, anymore and we don't have the same circle of friends.
Other than that, I'm GAL, hardcore. Doing things I love, for me. Getting out, having dinner with friends, going to the movies, doing seasonal activities, spending time with my cats, getting my nails done, things like that.
I'm in IC for me, too, where I plan to address some of the issues I need to deal with as far as partnering with someone else.
Do I want to get back with him? Yes. But the ball is in his court. I want an R with a man who wants me as much as I want him. I'd LOVE for that to be him. He's not there. He's in the greener pastures state with OW.
Honestly, he's pretty stubborn. I don't think anything I can say/do will convince him he wants to get into an R with me again. Even if he sees a total, 198348234 percent change in me. Not because things were that bad, but because once he's convinced himself he's done with "that", he doesn't look back.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
