I'm really sorry to see you in this boat...it utterly shocks me when I hear that women have this problem too. It makes me want to slap him, tell him to wake up and be freakin' grateful that he's got someone whose interested.
It wouldn't be right for anyone to speculate what the problem is. How does he "relieve" himself? This sounds weird but I'm learning from this site and even my own personal exploration that this is about the most complex thing in the world. Hang in there...
Now for some humor
A neighborhood mom I know is in the same boat. She was very candid about how she takes matters into her own hands etc...It blew me away. I disclosed my situation and she jokingly responded..."gee, I wish we could get my husband and your wife to go play cards while we....".
