How to start rebuilding? - 2

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For her to even face friends and family at this point would be tough, after separation is done forget about it.

It is impossible to say what will happen in time in any of our sitches. I'm sure she doesn't want to be around them or face them right now. Give it time and don't worry about it.

I don't know if your family would tend to be harsh towards her since she left you. If so, I would request that they treat her respectfully. That will help to keep the road home paved a little smoother, plus it's simply the right thing to do. I know a few women in my family would love to "speak their mind" to WAW, but I made it clear that I would never condone that. They love me enough to be pleasant around WAW if they see her (which they will tonight).

And if it's your W's shame or guilt for leaving the M or hurting you that makes her not want to be around your family, that is understandable right now, but it would fade if things improved in your sitch. It is not that big of a road block unless something ugly happens between her and your family.

I just wish it didn't take losing the love of my life to wake me up.

We've all had that thought, usually many times. But keep working against that type of thinking. It only causes you unnecessary pain. Dodge those thoughts, man! It's history, it's past. It [censored] that it happened, but it did. Stockdale Paradox!