Riding the rollercoaster

[PeterV2]

Confronting her about her money is pursuing. Don't.

As for showing her affection, it's not all about sex. It's about doing the little things that you did while courting. Thinking of things she would like, from her perspective, and doing them without being asked. Little courtesies. Try to put yourself in her shoes - to see things from her perspective - very difficult but necessary. Have you read Gary Chapman's Love Languages? If not then do so.

And you need to detach your emotions from her behaviour. When she does stuff that would normally drive you insane with jealousy, doubt or grief, detach and look at it like it's a movie playing out. Step back from the emotional edge and just observe. Think of it like a sociological study of primates. Look at it from a dispassionate point of view - like a scientist studying a specimen.

I know it's very difficult to do, and I get caught up in my emotions and imagination daily. But I just catch myself and reel it in. Awareness of your emotional responding is necessary.