Thanks Hairdog! We have two young children, 3 and 1. Our problems started before I got pregnant with the first one. I suspected that he was having an affair, he just lost interest it seemed overnight. Of course he proclaims he never did such a thing but he was coming home later that usual and then I found out about two years after the fact that there was a women at work who constantly propositioned him to go to hotels for an hour or so after work. He still says that he has never cheated on me. He claimed that this lack of trust scarred him and that was the reason we were not making love. We worked through that, Then it was because I was pregnant, then I was not pregnant but could get pregnant again, then it was he was just to tired after his work. He is not on any antidepressants, his testosterone levels were fine, he does have a tendancy to drink to much he drinks about a six pack of beer everyother day. Our doctor suggested that he cut it out so he did and there was not any change in his libido. I have touched on the Gay subject with him and he proclaims that he is not, he has several close male relatives/friends that are, so he is not homophobic. And I do catch him looking at other women all the time, whenever we go out in public. I did gain weight when I was pregnant but I have lost all of it now and it still does not seem to help the situation. I look just the same as I did when we started going together, except my breasts are a couple of sizes larger. We make love now when I remind him that it has been awhile and it lasts for a couple of minutes and he does not seem to be fully aroused, it is always in the mornings then he says we will do that again later, later never comes. We do not have issues with money, kids or jobs everything is good except for our love life. It is not satisfying to me and he claims it is not to him. I am hoping that my local book store has SSM because I am at my wits end with him.
