W just emailed me this, in response to an email about the kids' suitcase. Sorry for the language.
It's starting to get rowdy at the office!
[Boss] speaking to a colleague: "I feel dizzy when I get up..." Colleague 1: "You need more potassium." [Boss]: "What can I eat to get more?" Colleague 2 by SMS to W: "Tell her to eat d**** for potassium!!!!"
LOL
Seriously, what's the point in telling me this? She wants to make me laugh?! We barely email all week. She wants to remind me that everyone at the office has sex on their mind? That she's so tight with a colleague that s/he can talk to her about eating d****?!
What should I reply? Should I set a boundary here? Or ignore it?
I have this draft email that I won't send, but it's the nice version of what's on my mind.
"I hope you're not doing this to hurt me, but it's hard for me to know that you're getting ready for a night of sex and alcohol, that your colleagues are turned on and talk openly about sex. I wonder which colleague can talk to you about eating d****. A few weeks ago, we were still making love and I had no idea you were going to leave me. I wasn't ready for this and even though I've made a lot of progress in detaching over the last few weeks, I'm not comfortable with the fact that you're going to bed with someone else. In fact, I still don't understand why you sent me this anecdote."
Edit: Our sex life was very good until the end: we'd do it 1-2 times a week without pressure and to the satisfaction of all involved. Something to be proud of after almost 10 years and two kids. It's not like she needed to get it from somewhere else. Why all the excitement about casual sex now? Her bad friend, Anna, sleeps around a lot and is an enabler of my W's separation. That's all I can think of.
Last edited by Mozza; 10/31/1403:30 PM.
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