Smokey: So-and-so is going to list the house. He's sending you the paperwork. Please sign and return to him. We'll get it on the market ASAP. Could really use the drawers to the vanity.
I responded: That's great. Our daughters were tired from packing and threw the drawers in the moving van. I will mail them.
No response. I figured I'd give him an explanation about the drawers--not that he deserves it. Seemed appropriate. I figured he'd respond and I'd say thanks about the paperwork being mailed.
I'm leaving it be for now. I need to focus on work.
Got into an argument with D20 this morning. She was complaining about her dishwashing job and wanting to go back to school and so forth. I put the responsibility, squarely, in her lap. She asked my opinion and I told her, "I think you have some issues to sort out before you head back to school. Until you do, I think school will continue to be a problem. Once you face those issues, things will fall into place."
She got all defensive..."But, I'm not drinking!"
Me: "You asked me my opinion and I gave it. Seems like you get bogged down by the details of things and don't take action. I've been there and done that. I think you have some things to deal with."
It ended with me saying..."You're dad tried to NOT use for a long time. That didn't go so well for him. He was still an A-hole to live with. There was more to it than just removing the drugs."
I tried to make it clear that I believe she needs counseling or meetings or something, besides me, as her support. She is scared and I tried to let her know that I understood the fear, but there's nothing here she can't handle.
She wants me to DO it for HER. Much like Smokey. Just do it for me. Not taking that bullet anymore.
Anyway...She blew. I didn't, but felt a little sick after. And, that's when I saw the text from Smokey.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
