I've told basically everyone because I've needed there support and found that honesty is a lot easier on me. It will almost certainly make things a lot harder to reconcile but then what she has told her F&F is way worse.
I needed the support and that's all there is to it. If we reconcile (less than 1% chance) its just another hurdle and certainly less of an issue than the way she has behaved (EA, PA, casual hookups and just plain mean)
My friends have been great and my family has been hard on me for still wanting to save the M. I've massively improved my relationship with all of them though.
Having said that, I'd be much more of a wreck without my IC though.
Watch brene browns TED talk on vulnerability it may help and is certainly interesting.
Last edited by jim0987; 10/31/1412:38 PM.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
