newbie needs help part 5

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I haven't posted in 10 days. I've been seeing a positive change in wifes actions with kids. She has been staying home the last few weekends. This weekend would be 3 in a row. I have been busy with work and also with kids and church events. Really have been the spiritual leader for kids. Up until last weekend wife has been ignoring me. Last Sunday I took kids to church for early bible study before service and then they stayed after for a kids program. I came home after church and asked w to pick the kids up. She asked me what we were going to do with D. I told her I was sorry but I wasn't going to talk about it with her since I had not heard anything from my attorney. AI then said i thought the current situation needed to change that it was having a negative impact on kids. I asked her how she thought I was going to live with her until June in the same house. She said she wasn't going to leave our whome. I then mentioned her getting a teaching job and asking me to commit to getting kids ready for school and taking too school so she could leave at 6am for her job. I told her I would. Then 2 weeks later I am served D papers blind sighted. How she could expect me to move out. I then went to run errands. She called me on phone and it was not the best conversation, she blamed me for not helping her with D 4 months ago. I reminded her she was still in her Affair 4 months ago.a I wasn't going to let her do this to herself or our family when she was in this crazyness. Anyway that night she had a 103temp. Next morning kids were all sick and she had pneumonia. I check her phone bill at work to make sure no contact with om. Noticed an unusual number. Checked it out a text from om ex wife. Wife responded to the text 2hrs later. I know the ex wife and my wife were casual freinds do to D12 softball team, however not close or phone buddy. Might be mind reading a little, but can't believe the text was a good one. Who knows but it could be she found out about the Affair some how. The ex w has 3 kids with om and D is 2 yrs old. Anyway my wife has been showing signs of being more interested in me this week. Calling me 3 or 4 times during the day. More conversation at home etc. We had a kid Halloween party at school wed.night. I took kids since w was sick. She stopped by with more candy for our booth, which we didn't need, and then went to wallmart and got more. Today she called me a few times and was a lot more freindly. I want to hug her and give her a big kiss, but know that would be a big no no. I don't know what is going on in her mind or life right now for that matter. We have a big barn dance at our church this Sunday. It's always been a big thing for us and kids. I am sure the kids are going to want to go. I may ask her if she could take kids so she could connect with some of her old church freinds. I know she is in hiding from church freinds out of shame. Her words! I will keep on going and keep showing her my fight for her and family and pray that she re commits before the holidays.