Yeah. Good questions. Personally I was so near being a WAH myself that part of me was glad she had the strength to pull the plug. I asked my IC yesterday about it. Told him I didn't know where to draw the line between setting boundaries of how I allowed myself to be treated vs having unrealistic expectations.
For example, one are i have struggles with sex. I wouldn't be ok living in a marriage without sex. On the other hand, I think most healthy women would find my prior expectations extremely unreasonable.. I have trouble figuring out where exactly a health boundary is. And I know for sure that it is a bigger issue for me than it is to many men.
Good thing I have time to grow! I'm hoping to develop healthier views on sex, and through that gain more confidence that my boundaries are reasonable. Until then I have work to do, so my STBX can take all the time she needs. Could I find a woman that had so many issues she would feed my desires in exchange for putting up with some other dysfunction? Yes, and I am tempted. But I know in my heart I want to be healthy and to be in a functional marriage. So I need to keep down my road. It's a tough journey but maybe if I stay on it ill get somewhere.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
