Thanks for your comments. I really wrestled with it. I am prepared to do MC if we are working on our R and there is no OM. She has been doing IC as have I l, which is great.
Good advice with respect to communication. I'm finding she is very up and down. Awhile back you posted on my thread about responding only to civil communication. It made me think about how and what I did. I've been doing that lately.
Essentially, backsliding in terms of arguments occur when W feels she is being blamed, or a situation arises where she doesn't want to take responsibility. I.e. She is trying to go away to visit OM, and we have a child care issue. I'm usually blamed for controlling her or making her feel a certain way. I've noticed, as Wonka said awhile ago, that scorecard of hers is so long and deep, she pulls on comments I made on BD. She's not forgetting anything that's for sure.
Building positive baby steps.....for myself and my kids, number one priority. Improve interactions with W when they occur.
