Had my first IC appointment today! It was just intake and I did a lot of crying as I talked about the situation and what was going on with me, but I felt really good when I left, like I had someone to talk to who wouldn't just tell me to bag the loser and move on with my life.

I think this woman was super attentive to my truths and my desires and get the feeling she'll be helpful in me focusing on me but not dismissive that I ultimately would take BF back if he ever changed his mind.

We'll see what happens, but it's going to be weekly for a while. smile

She wants me to list the "pros" and "cons" of BF and my R with him, to try to get a clear thing I can reference when I need balance, rather than "all good" or "all bad" which contribute to the roller coaster ride.

I'll do that later, here.

ME: 38
BF: 40
T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice)
BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R.
10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW
12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies