Mindsin - pt. 5 (back to basics)

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My rule of thumb is if you're feeling any negative emotions (resentment, pain, impatience, fear, embarrassment) DO NOTHING. Wait. Let some time pass. You need to be your best self at all times. You can't afford to slip in verbal interaction and that is tough. When it comes to planned interactions and written communication there is no excuse. Be very patient.

25s right, the limbo doesn't last forever. I was living wih a friend for 4.5 months and giving all my income to STBX to support the household while she was with OM a lot of the time. I had my reasons. I didn't react emotionally, or to control. At points I felt I was being a rug or an enabler, and there was some of that. But now I've files he separation and am taking action. While I'm glad I am, I hvmave NO regrets about the timelines. Ill always be able to look back and know I did what the situation demanded of me based on her actions, not my emotions. And 4 months in the scheme of this is trivial.

So while it may feel like you're waiti forever when you're in pain, I seriously doubt you're puttin up with too much for too long here. In fact, a good measure is until you have accepted your sitch and can handle things in a detached and compassionate way, it's probably good to be still, process, and work on yourself.

There are exceptions but you get the idea.