Our posts seem to have crossed, but to clarify, I am not saying you are in denial or have a bad attitude or anything like that. My point was to try and help you distinguish between personal boundaries and punitive control over another person.
When we are suffering from so much pain, it is often difficult to clearly get a true concept of something new we are learning. Our emotions can cloud our abilities. Please don't take this the wrong way, I am not suggesting you are not intelligent. Intelligence is not the problem, the emotions are the problem. The pain gets in the way of making the best decisions.
I'm sure I probably come across the wrong way in a lot of my posts, too. But rest assured, we are here to give support and help one another learn.
No worries at all. I didn't take any offense. I found your message very helpful and I hope it will help me clarify what is a boundary and what is control. I know I'm just starting to learn and I do want to integrate these lessons in my personality for good.
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
