Raliced - Climbing Without a Rope

[Ahoy]

"We talk about "standing for the marriage". Here's the thing - to me marriage is a promise to build a life together, and implicit in that promise is the idea that you will work through problems together (short of abuse). My husband has absolutely shredded this - he has left the life we built together while making no attempt to work on the issues. I took those vows seriously, I believe in richer, poorer, in sickness and in health. I've tried to persuade myself that STBX is suffering from a sickness - and maybe he is - but the truth is that he did make some conscious decisions here.

raliced -- this is exactly how I feel too. I actually believe that we all have choices to make in our life. And my H was entitled to choose to leave me. But the WAY he went about it is what I have issue with. Like your H, mine didn't try to communicate at all what was going on -- instead he lied and lied and ran for the hills.

I think you're being generous in worrying about his future.