Thanks for that Drew! You are right about needing to keep my focus on things that I do have an ability to change!
Wow, T2, some very enlightening stuff there. Nice to know I'm not alone in many of the things that keep coming up. Soon after B-day my W said at one point that she had "just stopped trying" in our M. To me no matter what the circumstance, if one partner ever stops trying, the M is doomed to failure. You will always find "reasons" that any R is "bad" or flaws in any partner once you start looking for them. M isn't just about 2 people "in love" it's about the promise to always keep trying no matter what. Once that stops the end is certain.
