Dynamic of a family revised

[GoatGal]

Mighty,

This just highlights his level of desperation. What kind of man spends his time trash talking you this way?

No man that you need in your life. EVER. Hopefully as time goes by, you'll be able to have less and less involvement.

The funny thing is, he still cares in some twisted way.
Otherwise, he wouldn't waste his energy on this stuff.

All that fury comes from somewhere.

Whether it's anger at himself (likely) projected onto you, or the fact that you're moving ahead without him and it hurts him to see this, whatever it is, if he was really not emotionally involved in some way, he'd be DETACHED.

And he is not.

So you do have some influence on this man still.

But I admit, it's a bit scary. He is upping the ante because he is not getting satisfaction from his efforts to do--whatever it is he's trying to do.

Just make sure you and your kids are safe from him.

Probably S17 is well aware that XH has taken up residence in Wacko-land, but that's a lot for a young man to take in emotionally.

So while I wouldn't spend much time defending yourself to your son over this, you could just validate him, saying "I know it hurts to read stuff like this about your mom and I want you to know that is is not an accurate representation of history. You can talk to me about it at any time or ask any questions you want and I will answer them honestly. You know I love you and I am so sorry you're in the middle of this."


Your XH is burying himself alive with his kids with this sort of thing. Sad, but true.
He'll probably continue to try and blame YOU for that, because he still doesn't want to face that he is the one who brought this about.


So sorry, Mighty. Really.

It stinks.

---(G)GGG