I am so glad you came back to visit and post your update. You sound great and it does take some time to rediscover the person you once were. I'm happy to read that things are going well w/you and the man you are dating.
You are getting stronger each and every day and I'm glad you advised your son not to post his updates about what he's doing when he's w/you. It is none of their business what goes on in your household. As for J, time for him to grow up and stop acting like a bully.
Life has a funny way of making us stop and smell the roses. Keep up the good work.
Happy Halloween!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.