afraid I have waited too long #4

[Mozza]

It's likely that 5 weeks is not a very long time. You might be in this for months or even years. You'll have to go through hell and keep going. I understand the feeling though. My W and I always had a running email conversation every day, in the background of our work. You can imagine the emptiness of not having it at all now. As for you, an email about the cat's well-being will come across as quite lame, needy, so continue to fight the urge.

I know she has to understand on her own. The question is will it ever happen?

We don't know. And the hardest thing to accept is that there's nothing WE can do to make THEM understand anything. They might, they might not. If they don't, it won't be because we didn't say something. We have to accept that we have no control over something that is so important and obvious to us. This is one reason why we suffer so much. But remember that many of our WAS left us because we exerted too much control, so letting go of something we can't control already plays in our favor.