"Not yet. I've ordered DR last week and expect it by the end of this week.:
Okay, that explains alot. You have to read the books asap when you get them. There are no shortcuts and it frustrates me when people bug the posters here for quick answers rather than studying on their own.
"I would complain that she is so disorganized and sloppy that I've to go check on things after her..."
From the way you described things, you really did treat her like a child and have a massive ego. No woman wants to be treated like that.
"As a result, she would say that she was walking on eggshells at home, always afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing."
I can see that. Would you want to live with someone like you?
"Yesterday was a day of anger and today is a day of detachment. I finally read the article and a few things stand out for me."
The fact that you had to read that article to understand her POV, shows that you did put your needs first.
"The purpose was to work on all issues that I was bringing to the R: criticism, withdrawal, impatience, anger, etc."
Those are BIG issues and yet you seem to justify alot of your behavior and throw the blame back on your W rather than taking responsibility of your own actions and realizing that these are the consequences to those actions.
"To clarify, I've never physically assaulted or even threatened my wife, but I did raise my voice in arguments and snap at her or sulk."
Words hurt just as badly as physically striking her. Ask any woman on here if they would like to live under those conditions.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
