Wife Is Continuing Affair-When Do I Start LRT?-V

[PeterV2]

If she's asking you to go the MC I would oblige. You just have to be very careful about your state of mind during the session. Keep it solution based if you can. If she starts dragging up the past move on to how you can both behave so that the problems in the past don't reoccur. Look for solutions.

Also if she texts about the kids I would respond, since they are your common concern. If she spews, then, yes, don't respond, but if she's neutral or positive by all means respond and give positive reinforcement to positive behaviour. That's a path to better communication and better connection. You need to re-establish connection before any R work can be done. And positive connection will bring her out of her funk.