I think I said it in my thread and you responded if I remember right- that not all was well pre BD. I am more and more aware how easy it is to assume that all of my problems, fears, pain, and longing are because of the pending D. But he reality is that I have always had pain, fear, and longing in my life. Why is this so easy to pretend? I feel like it gives us an easier problem to deal with. Restoring a relationship is hard, but easier than accepting our mortality.
So I think recognizing fear from a new job is good. It proves you are seeing not all of life's problems are because of said octopus!
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
