Is it too late?

[LoisB]

Now I must clear away all the debris to have a clean slate and build again without him. That is detachment - we can try to dress it up behind psychobabble but it is truly a solo endeavor.

I lied. I want to add this, written by you ^^^^^^

In my case, it helped to face the stark reality of each day. My H knows where to find me...even now. If he wants to find me, he is capable of doing so.

And, ironically, the more you throw yourself into YOU, the greater your chances of reconciling your marriage at some point. But, that can't be the hidden agenda behind your solo endeavor...inspire yourself with the better life waiting for you, with or without your H. There is a better life waiting. Really.