To me, the first steps towards change are a) recognizing that change needs to happen; b) recognizing WHAT changes need to happen, specifically; c) noticing when we act in the ways that we want to change, and then d) (slowly) actually making those changes more and more consistently so that the changed behavior becomes habit.
Wise Words ... my first MC therapist..I felt she was amazing .. W hated her ... OM was still around and I had no idea .. go figure but I digress. Anyways she said this excact same thing to my wife, but I realized I too could grow and become better from such wisdom. I went home that night and made a short list of things I wanted to change. It really helps ... with the big ones and when you start catching yourself ... HUGE step let me tell ya.
