Lisa, you're right. My situation is certainly not an example of the worst or hardest or most extreme. And there are many things in my situation that seem positive, yes.
However, there may not be an OW as of right now, H has said he "would love nothing more than to have a romantic experience right now" . It is by no means the same as the actual horror you're speaking of, but there is no guarantee it won't become an issue. He did go to Santa Barbara three weeks ago with TWO women and paid for everything. He has been finding hookers on craigslist since 2009 (and that's what I was able to find). He may not have an OW right now but it's not for lack of trying.
And yes, I wasn't so nice. I can't argue that fact. My instinct is to say "but he acts like a child and I needed a partner who was an adult so anyone would become not so nice after a while" but that doesn't get me anywhere. I have no defense for my actions.
Card, I appreciate the mini-book you wrote. I'm impressed with your wisdom so early in your situation. I was there at one point and I lost it. Hold onto your direction and don't let anything sway you.
